Fork in the Road

I’m going to be involved with some personal issues this week – that means the server will be in lockdown mode, with most of the things that are interesting turned off. The blog will still be here if you already have it bookmarked, but not from the web site

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20 Responses to Fork in the Road

  1. Linda S. says:

    Art, sorry to hear about your sister passing.

  2. Art Stone says:

    Okay, I lied. I didn’t lock up the web site. I trusted you to behave 😉

    For those of you who care, the “so what happened?” turned out like this, gleaned mostly from her friends. About a month ago, she went on a transatlantic cruise to Barcelona Spain. When she arrived home, she was sick and never stopped being sick.

    If you visit the WJNT web site (Jamestown NY), there is a very odd item on the schedule at 9 am Saturday morning. It’s completely unheard of in 2013 – each week for something like 25 years, they do a live remote from the Friendly’s Restaurant – they have a banquet room that has an organ – and each week my sister would play the organ – maybe one item of music setting up who the guest was, but mostly playing the show in and out of commercials and filling time if there was some problem with a guest.

    Saturday morning, she didn’t show up. That never happens. Ruth was always where she said she would be, or tell you if there was a problem. The host and his producer were significantly alarmed. As soon as the show was over, they rushed to her house and found her car there and the door locked. They called the police who broke in and found her dead in the bathroom.

    I would expect that this weekend’s show will be dedicated to her with guests who knew her. She moved to Jamestown 10 years ago knowing nobody. Once I get home, I’ll post a picture of the crowd that showed up. My guess is even more people tried to come, but there was very limited parking at the place. It’s been a very profound couple of days.

    • Art Stone says:

      Here is the details about the show

      The show has been on the air continuously since 1946, the year my parents were married. Dennis probably has hosted it for the last 25 years. This is local radio – the real thing.

    • CC1s121LrBGT says:

      That’s great, Art, that she touched so many viewer’s lives in such a positive way that they would show up. It is also great that the people who really knew her found you and updated you on some things about her that you didn’t know. Very nice to go from knowing no one 10 years ago to having a crowd show up.

  3. Parrott says:

    My condolences Art. Hope you have a safe trip and peace be with you.

  4. Ed Gein says:

    Very sorry. Pity you didn’t get a chance to see her before she died.

  5. briand75 says:

    You point to an interesting phenomenon, Art – Is xxxx really dead? My mother passed away a few years back and was cremated. I still find myself in the act of picking up the phone to call her occasionally. My wife passed and she had a wake and funeral. I don’t like it, but I know she has passed. Interesting way the synapses process things.

    • Art Stone says:

      Is Osama bin Laden really dead? Did he ever even exist?

      • CC1s121LrBGT says:

        He would have been safer hiding out in the US where he could have simply pledged that he was eligible to vote and voted in every election since 2001.

        Isn’t it a conspiracy that there is no conspiracy saying he is in Gitmo being waterboarded?

      • Nidster says:

        He must be dead. Obama keeps reminding us at every opportunity that HE killed Osama. Or, maybe it’s a case where if you tell a big lie, tell it often, then it becomes fact.

        Hmmmmm, maybe you have a point.

  6. Art Stone says:

    so the threading got way too deep 🙂

    I’ve been dredging up my memories of her from before her children were around. I’m not sure if there will be an opportunity to tell them some of the details of her life and the family she grew up in. I’ll sort of play it by ear. Do they want to know that she hated wearing braces, especially when she was playing the flute and she would get hung up? 🙂

    In retrospect, the one thing I would have done over with my father’s death was to view his body. He wanted to be cremated, which is what we did. For a couple years, my mind (especially in dreams) would “double check” the facts and want to know if it really was true that my parents were dead or whether it was just mistake in the encoding in my synapses. I suspect that viewing the body would have prevented that, but I’m not really sure.

  7. CC1s121LrBGT says:

    All the best, Art, especially (lawyerspeak insert: but not limited to) if the issues are health related.

    • Art Stone says:

      Well it is health related, but not my health (at least not directly). I’ve gotten firm confirmation that my sister died this weekend – I’ll be going to her funeral in New York. According to what I’ve heard indirectly, she has been putting her affairs in order the past month or so – so she probably knew the end was near, but I wasn’t aware of that.

      She raised three well adjusted productive adults, who were (and should have been) her primary focus – she was my “next of kin”, so that will ripple through my own decisions about my affairs if I became unable to make my own decisions.

      So far as I can tell, the NSA played no role in this, although the general state of the country might have undermined her will to fight whatever health problems she might have had. I’m hearing rumors that death rates among older white people are on the rise, having nothing to do with death panels or fluoride in the water or drones dropping hellfire missiles

      • foyle says:

        My condolences on your loss.

        Raising well adjusted and productive adults is a rare and un-valued quality in our culture these days. Glad to hear that your sister was ‘counter-cultural’.

        • Art Stone says:

          The Steve Jobs quote above fits her well. She lived the life she wanted. She and I agreed on many things, one being that quality of life is more important than quantity.

          The past couple years, she had taken some cruises, and mentioned she was going to interview with Disney to interview for the job of Fairy Godmother. I took that at the time as a metaphor, at least in part.

          • CC1s121LrBGT says:

            I’m sorry for your loss, Art.

            I remember when my father passed, one of my brothers did not want to go to some of the gatherings but was very glad he did. He met new people and heard stories about my father from people we had never known that knew him.

            It is a good opportunity to celebrate the positive influences that a loved one had on the people around her – on you, her children, and on people you may have not even met yet.


            PS- Any idea what will happen to her StreamingRadioGuide points? 😉

          • Art Stone says:

            She never visited the web site. She refused to have internet access That was one of the ways in which she pushed back on being what other people wanted her to be. Back around 2001 when this was a booming business site, she could have been very valuable to me and shared in my financial success, but she wanted nothing to do with it

      • Nidster says:

        Sorry to hear of your loss. There do seem to be persistent rumors of ‘stress’ related deaths. Wish all the best for the family and yourself.

  8. Nidster says:

    Hope everything works out well for you and/or happy sailing! We’ll manage but will miss your blogs. Take care!

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